What is the fate of a sex worker today? Are they molested on the streets or given royal treatment? The Daily Mirror listened to the story of Kusum while making her presence at a media workshop to address issues of HIV/AIDS, Commercial Sex Workers, Law and Human Rights organized by the UNAIDS media unit. Kusum has been involved in the profession for 20 years but has been able to rise from scratch and set an example to all women engaged in the profession.
I come from a good family background. I have two brothers and a sister. At the age of 14, I fell in love with a boy and eloped with him since my parents were against the affair. By the time I was 18, I was a mother of two children but even then I was still unmarried. However, after I gave birth to my children we married. We faced many problems, including financial issues and were struggling to survive. Later I left for Sharjah and worked there. But to my dismay, I found out that my husband had spent all the money wastefully. I was mentally down and after I returned to Sri Lanka I worked as a Lady Security Officer (LSO) thanks to a friend. The salary was very less and I was not very satisfied with it since I had to find the bread and butter for my children. While working there, I came across another friend who suggested me this profession. At first I was quite nervous but then later got used to it and was involved in it for 20 years.
My husband left me so I was living with an interdicted police officer. This illicit affair went on for 17 years. He also cheated me and I was even psychologically affected. However, I ensured that my children had a proper education and managed to build a house on my own. I didn’t want to be in debt, and therefore, I somehow made money to cover up the expenses.
We were always molested by the policemen. I have been dragged to the police station many times. But I still survived. Sometimes we weren’t given bail so we had to pay a fine of Rs.100 to escape from jail. We were dominated by brokers. I didn’t have much discrimination as later on had close links with the police. If I go to Pettah even now, they would call me madam and speak to me very well.
Sex workers are everywhere. They are all innocent women who have been thrown to this profession due to illiteracy, poverty and many other issues, which are beyond their control.
School teachers, nurses, Bank Managers and a lot of children who are quite vulnerable. Bank Managers too have been involved in the profession maybe due to frustrating career progress or lack of sensual satisfaction. Therefore when they see an attractive person they would agree on a sum and satisfy their needs. Children too are sold to brothel owners for surprisingly cheaper value when parents have no other way of adopting their children in poor families. Emotions are beyond our control, and therefore, when we are in need of an alternative way to satisfy our needs we have to stick to this as a last resort.
After six years since I left that profession, I started working in an organization that did social service and it helped me to initiate ‘Abhimani’. ‘Abhimani’ is a women’s collective that is dedicated to women’s welfare. We provide rehabilitation assistance for women and children who have been involved in drugs, those who had undergone sexual harassment and other issues. It is also a platform that increases the knowledge of sex workers on the spreading of Sexually-Transmitted Diseases (STD) such as HIV/AIDS and educates them on the effective use of condoms.
Mothers should stay at home and look after their children. We even see older women on the streets. Social media and other avenues are direct contributors to this issue. The youth are quite easily attracted to this profession mainly because they follow international trends. In countries like Korea, prostitution is a highly paid profession but if somebody thinks that it is the same here, they are badly mistaken. These youngsters don’t even know when they would contract diseases and in such a situation their entire lives are at stake.
The discussion was done in the presence of Dr. Prathiba Mahanamahewa and Dr. Dayanath Ranathunga who spoke about the law and the human rights aspects involved when dealing with sex workers.
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